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There is a whole section of the society composed of middle aged females living alone. The increasing divorce rate linked with the development of women independence over recent decades has brought us armies of financially independent women, living either completely alone or with occasional boyfriends who come and go as each relationship ends.
What has brought these women to successful independence? Those who have voiced an opinion on the matter share the theory that such a lifestyle comes through sheer necessity – if there is nobody to mow the lawn or take out the garbage, you must either learn to do it yourself or end up knee deep in a refuse-infested jungle!
Many women who live a solitary existence do so because they have no other choice. Many unsuccessful marriages linger on, and the woman is past her sell-by date by the time either one or both parties choose to put an end to their efforts to stay in a relationship. Women of fifty or sixty find it difficult to adjust to another man in their lives and some has no idea how to behave with single men, making it difficult to find a new life partner, with so little shelf time left.
Forward thinking females in their fifties and sixties who find themselves at the wrong end of spinsterhood often take up younger lovers with ‘no strings attached.’ And why not? Often it is the male of the species who ‘play the field’ at the tapering side of sixty and there is no reason why women should not do the same. At the beginning of the ‘noughties,’ it became obvious that many men prefer older ladies, finding them easier to get along with than their younger versions. Young women are so often volatile and self-centered, whereas mature women have all the appeal of the ‘motherly’ qualities so dear to the male heart.
A young man of 28 who recently began dating a lady 18 years his senior quipped, “Well why not? She’s smart to know when to shut up, experienced in the bedroom and a great cook.” Hmm. Well perhaps he need not have been quite so blunt, but we can all see his point.
Such women have found they do not need a man to survive very nicely into old age. Unlike men who find themselves a little lonely when long term marriage breaks up, many women find themselves enjoying the best of some worlds; keeping their family affections, having a full and fun social life and being financially independent.
They get to enjoy and embrace life. Some people are afraid of handling marriage responsibilities that are why they end up getting a divorce because of misunderstandings or affairs. Enjoy being single. If you are not yet ready to enter into a mature relationship, then enjoy every minute of your life being single because once you step into a relationship, you will never have all the chance to have fun and bond with your friends.
Third, single women get to focus on their careers. There is a big opportunity for career growth and development when having a single life. It is easy for them to travel and look for many job opportunities in other countries without worrying anything.
Single women believe that being alone makes you focus on yourself. Unlike when in a relationship, you need to compromise and see to it that your partner is always happy. There is no need to sacrifice when living in a single life because your focus is to make yourself happy and provide yourself with all your needs.
Single women believe that being alone you get to live a peaceful life. Going solo means you have all the bed by yourself, the room and the house and no one to share your stuff with, and no one to squabble with the remote control. There are no issues that you need to worry about and no hassles as to who fix the mess. If you have a partner, things have to be shared, and you have to be understanding. If you see that the house is a mess, you wish you could stun your partner with a cell phone stun gun to teach him a lesson.
Living a single life is not at all a misery. It is fun and very exciting. There is a big space for growth, for maturity and for building new friends. It takes time to prepare oneself for another phase in life which is settling down. So why you are still single, take all your time and have some fun!
A woman changes her role as she progressively advances in age and adopts the new task. She plays every role with perfection in her way. She becomes a focal point in the family. The woman provides a link among the family clans which is pivotal and important. The most important link is that of a mother. A mother is the truest friend of the entire family. Her concern about children is unmatched and unparalleled. Her innate love and affection are recognized both in her life time and after her demise too.
Women’s role in this modern era differs divergently. It is the manifestation of undesirable freedom provided to them. The rise in the divorce rate and women taking advantage of favorable laws is the cause of the disaster in the families. The sanctity of women and their core values depleted, hence, becoming unfocused.
It is our duty to evaluate and teach the younger generation the importance of being moderate and balance in life. They should understand that every house needs a woman in the form of the mother, daughter, wife, and the best companion. She is the protective shield of the family. When the mindset of men reconciles the necessity and importance of women in his life, then life becomes smooth and full of love and affection.
It is through this process that we negotiate, through constant self-development, our position as to where we fit in. Once our role is defined, we begin the arduous task of becoming an integral part of this structure.
The road to socialization, however, is sometimes paved with boulders. Specifically, defining one’s gender role and how it relates to society’s expectations of what that role represents.
If it is true that “all the worlds’ a stage, and we are merely players in it,” then it is a society that is choosing and directing the script. It is the process by which we act out the parts of this script that determine our successes and failures.
Case in point: In 1992, a statistic cited that out of the nations entire congress, only 6% are women. It was stated that “Gender plays an important role in the selection of government positions based on ethnicity. Therefore, the choice will almost always be a man. He is more capable of getting funding for his campaign than his counterpart, whereas a woman will receive a token pledge.” During the 70s, if a woman ran for congress, she would have probably received a $100.00 campaign donation versus a $1000 pledged to her counterpart.
Things are quite different today, as evidenced by the recent presidential campaign. However, women have not gained as many seats in Congress as they should. Thus, the script needs to be re-worked.
Family, religion, education, politics, media hype, and peer pressure all contribute to the social polarization of women. These agents of socialization do affect the identity of the female role in today’s society. As one struggles to maintain individuality, it is amazing that anyone could survive the scrutiny that is dispensed by society.
Forty-five years ago, I had the ability to climb the ladder of success. What I lacked, however, was the understanding that I could. Today, I have the ability to achieve and become the best at whatever I wish to be. What I gained is the understanding that I can.
Latch-key kids, a high divorce rate, two-paycheck households, single family households, and a decline in the respect given to the elderly is a common practice.
It is the fact that women are reflected as multifaceted personalities. Their versatile attributes play a dominant role when the situation demands. The important aspect is their nature and ability to assess the situation. The other side of their personality is the susceptibility of being carried away by eavesdropping. However, the best and the most coveted part is that we cannot stay away from them. It is difficult to live without them.